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If you are not familiar with what a honeymoon registry is, you should be!

Today, many couples are already living together prior to getting married. For some, it may be a second marriage. As a result, the need for the usual household items as wedding gifts often does not exist.

The natural solution to the wedding “gift giving” dilemma is the popular and growing trend toward honeymoon registries.

It’s perfect! You get a great honeymoon and your guests can feel good about giving you a gift that they know you really wanted. Something personal and meaningful.

A honeymoon registry is very similar to the usual gift registry. The difference being that instead of getting pieces of crystal or china as gifts, you will get “pieces” of your honeymoon. What a wonderful idea!

When you join a honeymoon registry, your chosen destination package is broken down into affordable “pieces” and listed just like a normal gift registry. The airfare may be broken into several smaller pieces. Each meal or activity you choose will be listed. Your guests can then search your registry and purchase a desired piece of your honeymoon for you.

There are many honeymoon registries to choose from but all are not created equal.

A good registry will…

… be simple to use. Remember, not all of your guests are computer savvy.

… provide both email and postcard notification of your registry to your guests. Not everyone has a computer and postcards are just more personal.

… provide your guests with a visual and physical accounting of their purchase. A gift card to present to the bride and groom as well as a receipt for their own purposes is required.

… have exceptional, personal, customer service complete with a 1-800 number so that guests may contact them with any questions they may have.

… have a proven track record and specialize in honeymoon registry service and travel.

… be bonded to ensure protection of the money in your registry account.

… pay out your collected honeymoon funds in a timely manner.

Call them. Talk with them. Make sure you are completely comfortable with your choice before committing.

As a polite gesture on your part, take pictures of your “gifts” while on your honeymoon. The guests who contributed to your happiness will appreciate a picture in your thank you card!

Cindy English is the publisher of: www.Beach-Wedding-Themes.com Beach wedding themes full of fun, fantasy and romance! www.All-Florida-Beach-Weddings.com Plan your wedding celebration in Paradise! © Copyright 2005 by Cindy English

A wedding is a thrilling event. It makes everyone feel elated, enchanted, and young at heart and the first item to symbolize this blissful spirit is the wedding invitation.

After so many years of marriage and so many memories, most of them blurred by time and an aging brain, my wedding day still shines as one prominent remembrance with most of its details intact. It was a happy day; a Friday I’ll never forgot. I still keep the white stiletto shoes I wore, although they are now curved in an infantile position on top of an off-the-way closet shelf with some of the other memorabilia, like one little box of sugared almonds that was given to each guest as a wedding favor.

In those days being the practical me, I had refused to have a wedding. Eloping would be so romantic, I had thought. How wrong I was! Luckily, my mother put her foot down and made me agree to a halfway decent wedding.

Looking through my memorabilia, I see that our wedding invitation is the only one that stands below par; however, in those olden days that was probably the best that could be done. A printer printed the words on heavy sand-colored paper in raised block letters with matching envelopes. Today’s sophisticated varieties and personalized choices were non-existent then.

Such a pity it was, because after the marriage license, the invitations are the most important historical documents to recapture a couple’s special day. Besides being an announcement of their future, the invitation enlightens and informs, stating who’s who in the wedding party, when and where the wedding will take place and the dress code required.

Thanks to more aesthetic expectations of today, if you want to spend the money, and believe me you should, you can send out spectacular invitations highlighting your wedding theme. They are definitely the most indispensable element of your wedding.

Wedding invitations glimmer like colorful dreams to divine the way to what is to come, and after the bouquet is thrown and the last dance is danced, these distinguished items will be the ones chosen to be preserved. Beyond any doubt, you should indulge yourself where your wedding invitations are concerned, so when you look back, say in fifteen or twenty years, you will not regret having skimped, even if it meant you ate less or rented a smaller apartment for your first few years of marriage.

If I were to do it all over again, I would insist on artistic, spectacular invitations. I would choose handcrafted and custom-designed aesthetic creations that would echo my vision of the specific, poignant theme for my wedding.

For a formal or even an informal wedding, a very talented artist I know customizes and handcrafts colors, themes, and contents to fit any couple’s needs. She also designs, if asked, monograms for couples based on their first and last names, and the keepsake boxes. This makes any wedding elegant, exclusive, tasteful, and so unforgettable.

If you are a bride to be, can you dare think how fortunate it would be if the same unique and memorable design on the invitations could greet your guests with table numbers, reception menus, wedding favors, escort cards, and place cards with matching thank-you notes to be sent later?

Designed by a true artist, your wedding invitation is unquestionably the forerunning ambassador of your special day. After its message is received, your wedding invitation will be framed for you as a keepsake to represent your happiness, and your family and friends, too, will cherish it inside their albums forever.

Written by Joy Cagil, this article has been submitted in affiliation with http://www.Prye.Com/ which is a site for Wedding Invitations.

Second weddings can be awkward events for families. It is hard enough sometimes getting adjusted to the new member and a new family along with it. It can be difficult not only on the new couple, but also any children that they have. The wedding should be a smooth transition and uniting of two families into one. It is also important to make sure the kids feel comfortable and enjoy themselves.

Generally it seems that second weddings are usually smaller, more close selection of guests and family members. This can really help families get adjusted to the marriage, especially children. This can also really help get the children more involved in the wedding. They can be a part of the wedding party, taking up spots like ushers, bridesmaids, flower girls, ring bearers, and even best man. It’s a good way to show the children that family still comes first, especially if they have been hurt or depressed about the original breakup or even death of their other parent.

The right place is also important. A place that the whole family can enjoy too can be a wise choice. It could be like a mini-vacation. Not only do they get to celebrate the marriage, but they also get time together to bond and have fun. Input from the kids here can be important and help make the transition smoother. A nice getaway to a private outdoor place or to the city or your family’s favorite vacation spot can be perfect to help strengthen the second wedding.

Even letting the children pick out little details about the wedding will help them feel like a better part of the ceremony. Maybe ideas about food, flowers, color scheme, guest seating, and stuff like this can bring the family together a little more. Not to say that they have complete say or know everything, considering it isn’t their wedding, but allowing them to at least speak their mind will reassure them of their importance in the family through hard times.

If there are older children, teen years or higher, then they may want to contribute to the wedding in a more unique and personal way. Depending on their talents and interests, they could sing a song, paint a picture, or even read a poem they wrote to celebrate the moment. These little touches of themselves in the wedding decorations and celebration helps them to understand it’s not just about two people falling in love, but it’s also about still keeping the family together and happy.

The important thing is to remember that even though it may be a wonderful time for you and your new spouse, it can be a confusing time for the children. Making it more intimate for the whole family can start the foundation off right to a new chapter in everyone’s life.

Jake Rose is an artist and an author from Massachusetts.

This article has been submitted in affiliation with http://www.Prye.Com which is a site for Wedding Invitations.

Wedding ceremonies in Australia can be fantastic as the only words that are required to be said by law are those that appear in purple and the rest of the ceremony can be made up to suit the couples individual circumstances or desires.

Whilst for many couples designing your own personal wedding ceremony can be an exciting and memorable occasion, it is normally best to just tweak the Standard Ceremony wording a little and add in one or two readings/poems to suite your own particular individual desires.

The standard ceremony has been used for years; it flows nicely and is well received by guests. It lasts for about 15 minutes and the balance of the time is then made up of your chosen reading/s and the signing of the Certificates of Marriage.

When readings/poems are added to the ceremony and read by family members or guests this has always been a winner. Background music, maybe a single violin or the like, playing whilst the ceremony takes place can also be a winner. You can also add a theme like a Rose Ceremony etc. It is very nice where the couple design their own wedding vows and read them themselves (not repeating after me).

When considering your ceremony options, bare in mind how long you want your ceremony to last for. The best way to check the length is to open a new word page and then cut and paste sections into it, under the headers that have been set out below in the Standard Ceremony. Read it back to yourself slowly whilst timing it. Remember to repeat the vows, as they will be repeated by you in the ceremony, and remember to allow time for the exchanging of ring/s. The signing the Certificates of Marriage after the ceremony can last 5-10 minutes (as guests take photographs) so if you want your ceremony to last for say 25 minutes in total, you would put together wording that lasts for about 15-20 minutes.

If you want to make changes to the Standard Wedding Ceremony, please e-mail me your final wedding ceremony wording, as a word document, at least 10 days before the date of your wedding. If I do not receive it by then I will use the Standard Ceremony, plus a couple of readings of my choice.

Right, so now you’re ready to get started - below is the Standard Ceremony

Good Luck and Have Fun!

Tim Addison

TIM’S STANDARD WEDDING CEREMONY

WELCOME

Family and Friends, on behalf of GROOM and BRIDE I would like to welcome you all here today and I call upon you to be fellow witnesses with me in their marriage.

We are not here to only witness their commitment to each other, but also to wish them well and every happiness in their life together.

My name is Tim Addison and I am authorized by law to solemnize marriages according to law.

GROOM and BRIDE believe that marriage is founded on the sort of sincerity and understanding, that leads to tolerance, confidence and trust.

They also believe that those qualities that have attracted them to each other can best be developed during a life spent together.

We celebrate with them the love they have discovered in each other, and we support their decision to commit themselves to one another for the rest of their lives.

A happy marriage will enable them to establish a home where there will be love and stability, where you, their family and their friends, will find welcome, peace and support, and which will be a base from which the influence of their life can extend.

SPECIAL MENTIONS

GROOM and BRIDE have asked me to make a special mention of thanks to…………………… who have ……………………
Insert details of people who have assisted with putting the wedding together, travelled long distances to attend, etc.
You may also want to mention loved ones who could not make it to the wedding or who have passed on.

MARRIAGE DECLARATION

Now GROOM and BRIDE…

Before you are joined in marriage in my presence and in the presence of these witnesses, I am to remind you of the solemn and binding nature of the relationship into which you are now about to enter.

Marriage, according to law in Australia, is the union of a man and a woman to the exclusion of all others, voluntarily entered into for life.

If anyone here present knows of any legal reason as to why these two persons may not be joined together in marriage, let them speak now or forever hold their peace………..

READING BY TIM

GROOM and BRIDE….

Love is patient; love is kind.

Love is not envious or boastful

or arrogant or rude.

It does not insist on its own way:

it is not irritable or resentful;

it does not rejoice in wrong doing,

but rejoices in truth.

Love bears all things,

believes all things,

hopes all things, endures all things

And now faith, hope, and love abide,

and the greatest of these is love.

GIVING AWAY BRIDE

Who brings this Woman to be married to this Man?

Person giving away says “I Do”, places BRIDE’s hand into GROOM’s hand and then he returns to the other guests.

CHEROKEE PRAYER

Can be done as a Reading or as a Prayer

God in heaven above please protect the ones we love.

We honour all you created as we pledge our hearts and lives together.

We honour mother-earth - and ask for this marriage to be abundant and grow stronger through the seasons;

We honour fire - and ask that their union be warm and glowing with love in their hearts;

We honour wind - and ask they sail though life safe and calm as in their father’s arms;

We honour water - to clean and soothe their relationship - that it may never thirst for love;

With all the forces of the universe you created, we pray for harmony and true happiness as they forever grow young together.

THE ASKING

Tim to GROOM:

GROOM do you take BRIDE to be your lawfully wedded wife,

will you love her, comfort her, honour and keep her, in sickness and in health and forsaking all others keep only unto her, so long as you both shall live?

GROOM Replies - “I DO”

Tim to BRIDE:

BRIDE will you take GROOM to be your lawfully wedded husband,

will you love him, comfort him, honour and keep him, in sickness and in health and forsaking all others keep only unto him, so long as you both shall live?

BRIDE Replies - “I DO”

GROOM and BRIDE as the two of you come into this marriage uniting you as husband and wife, and as you this day affirm your faith and love for one another, I would ask that you always remember to cherish each other as special and unique individuals, that you respect the thoughts, ideas and suggestions of one another. Be able to forgive, do not hold grudges, and live each day that you may share it together - as from this day forward you shall be each other’s home, comfort and refuge, your marriage strengthened by your love and respect for each other.

VOWS - Whilst the purple words below cannot be changed, the words in black can. See options below and then copy and paste your chosen vows or write your own.

GROOM, Please repeat after me.

I call upon the persons here present

to witness that I, GROOM,

take thee, BRIDE,

to be my lawful wedded Wife.

To have and to hold,

from this day forward,

for better or for worse,

for richer or for poorer,

in sickness and in health,

while we both shall live.

And, BRIDE, will you now also please repeat after me.

I call upon the persons here present

to witness that I, BRIDE,

take thee, GROOM,

to be my lawful wedded Husband

To have and to hold,

from this day forward,

for better or for worse,

for richer or for poorer,

in sickness and in health,

while we both shall live.

POEM READ BY TIMMay your mornings bring joy and your evenings bring peace.May your troubles grow few as your blessings increase.May the saddest day of your futureBe no worse than the happiest day of your past.May your hands be forever held in friendshipAnd your hearts joined forever in love.
RING CEREMONY

GROOM and BRIDE, what token of your love do you offer? Pause for rings to be given to Tim
Would you place the rings in my hand?

Ring Blessing

May these rings represent your love for one another. These two lives are now joined in one unbroken circle. Wherever they go - may they always return to one another. May these two find in each other the love for which all men and women yearn. May they grow in understanding and in compassion. May the home which they establish together be such a place that many will find there a friend. May these rings on their fingers symbolise their love.

Rings are then handed back to the ring bearer/s

GROOM, please place your ring on BRIDES finger and repeat after me.

BRIDE, with this ring, I thee wed

Take it and wear it

as a token of my love

and as a symbol of all we share

BRIDE, please place your ring on GROOMS finger and repeat after me.

GROOM, with this ring, I thee wed

Take it and wear it

as a token of my love

and as a symbol of all we share

The vows that have been exchanged by GROOM and BRIDE have been offered in our hearing, but words are fleeting and the sound of them are soon gone. Therefore the wedding ring becomes an enduring symbol of the promises that have been made.

May these wedding rings be a reminder to GROOM and BRIDE of the vows they have shared today and a witness to all the world of their commitment in marriage.

BLESSING THE MARRIAGE

(Apache Blessing)

Now you will fell no rain, for each of you will the shelter for the other. Now you will feel no cold, for each of you will be the warmth to the other. Now you are two persons, but there is only one life before you. Go now to your dwelling, to enter into the days of your life together, and may your days be good and long upon the earth.

Treat yourselves and each other with respect, and remind yourselves often of what brought you together. Give the highest priority to the tenderness, gentleness and kindness that your connection deserves. When frustration, difficult and fear assail your relationship - as they threaten all relationships at one time or another - remember to focus on what is right between you, not only the part which seems wrong. In this way, you can ride out the storms when clouds hide the face of the sun in your lives - remembering that even if you lose sight of it for a moment, the sun is still there. And if each of you takes responsibility for the quality of your life together, it will be marked by abundance and delight

DECLARATION OF MARRIAGE

Family and Friends…

GROOM and BRIDE have declared before all of us that they will live together in marriage. Marriage is an act of faith and a personal commitment as well as a moral and physical union between two people. Marriage has been described as the best and most important relationship that can exist between them. It is a moral commitment that requires and deserves daily attention.

GROOM and BRIDE have made special promises to each other. They have symbolised them by joining hands, taking vows and by the giving and receiving of rings.
So therefore by the authority vested in me, it is my great honour and privilege to declare them to be husband and wife.

GROOM, You may now kiss your wife.

PRONOUNCEMENT

Ladies and Gentlemen…… GROOM and BRIDE, husband and wife!

Tim Addison - http://www.marriages.net.au

Designing Your Wedding Ceremony
by
Tim Addison
Civil Marriage Celebrant
www.marriages.net.au